My last post on Instagram was a quote from Wonder Woman movie about fear and curiosity. Even though I posted because I like the quote, it made me think about myself and pushed me to write this blog post. The quote was simply saying " Which will hold greater rule over you? Your fear or curiosity?"
When I write Fear vs Curiosity to Google, the first information is saying; "Fear protects you, causes you to pause and think, too much fear can make you react irrationally, too little fear can allow you to do irrational, stupid, risky things. Curiosity can make you ignore fear, logic or common sense if strong enough."
As much as I agree the part of 'pausing and thinking' about fear, I am not completely agree that fear can protect you. And also curiosity doesn't always make you ignore fear. Ofcourse I am not speaking about jumping into lions just because you are curious about seeing what they do. But let's speak about riding. There are some moments that we push ourselves to achieve a goal even though our mind calculates the risks. I believe even the coolest riders can occasionally face with this situation. Or when you want to try something with a new horse or something new with your horse, you may be curious to try but on the other hand you can get scared of doing it. These times if you ask me are the times you need to be both curious and logical. The facts are really important. Even though you have fear if you have the right conditions around you, I believe curiosity should win the game as if you don't feel the fear because if you start calculating every option, pausing too much and staying in your comfort zone all the time, you can not step forward. Success is really coming when you decide to go out of your comfort zone. This is something I experienced a lot of time.
Being curious or not having fear and jumping into things are definitely different. For example when I see a very problematic horse, if I believe there is no sense of trying to achieve something with him but it will be just dangerous to risk myself; I can just say no to it. This doesn't mean fear steps me back but this is just having a wise decision for the future. These kind of horses are not the horses that we see everyday or not the horse who can just be a little bit difficult than the other one. I believe difficult horses can be fixed but I don't believe a dangerous horse should be ridden by a beginner or even an expert if there is no point.
So we as riders should be in between curiosity and fear. The balance of not letting the fear to take control but also not jumping into things if the terms are not safe enough. This dilemma for sure is not for barely difficult horses, falling from a horse in a daily exercise, having a bad day with a school horse or dealing with a nasty pony but for the moments which can make a serious change in our life.
As Alan Watts says; " By replacing fear of the unknown with curiosity we open ourselves up to an infinite stream of possibility. We can let fear rule our lives or we can become childlike with curiosity, pushing our boundaries, leaping out of our comfort zones and accepting what life puts before us."